Hey, Dr. Feelgood:

My boyfriend & I haven’t had sex in almost 6 months. We’ve had our trust issues in the past, but I thought we were getting through them. He barely touches me & prefers to play video games to escape having to talk to me. When I bring up the subject of no sex, he simply says it’s his problem & he’s dealing with it, blah, blah, blah. I’m back to square one where I feel like he’s being unfaithful (he keeps his phone with him at ALL times on vibrate & his computer now has a password so I can’t log on). I’ve caught him looking at porn in the past & it[‘s] upset me as he can look at that, but won’t even touch me. I don’t know what to do...it’s gotten to the point where I’m a little turned off by him & now I don’t even try to initiate any kind of affection. We live together & I feel like we’re just going through the motions because we’re both so uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do or how to feel. Help me understand what is going on & what I should do.

R.W. in St. Charles

To me it looks like this romantic relationship is over and you’re more like roommates than lovers. If that’s the case, you should leave and find someone new. You could try going for couples therapy if you think there’s enough there to salvage, but life is short and staying in a relationship that is heading nowhere is a mistake, at least to my way of thinking.

Hey, Dr. Feelgood:

My boyfriend and I have been together 10 years and have had very happy and wonderful relationship. Our sex life has never been frequent. For the last year we have sex once a week on the weekend in the morning. I can’t stand the routine but I take what I can get because I really can’t stand the infrequency. I mustered up the courage to ask him about having more sex. He thought this was a great idea. However, after the discussion nothing changed. I brought it up again two months later. He made some excuses and then finally said that I could have sex whenever I wanted. All I would have to do is put my vagina in his face and he would be more than happy to oblige. I’m not sure what to make of this. I’m not comfortable with this. Yes, I’d get to have more sex out of the whole situation but it feels as if he isn’t attracted to me per say. I know that nudity is generally a turn on, but this seems unreasonable. Is this a matter of how men and women differ when it comes to attraction or is he asking me to do things he know I won’t do to end the conversation?

You say you’ve been together for ten years but don’t say how old you are, and in particularly how old he is and his age may be a factor. I say that because a man’s level of testosterone, the male sex hormone, is highest in the morning and I advise older men who have difficulties becoming aroused at night to have sex in the morning.
If he is older (or at least not so physically fit which has led to him having some problems getting an erection) then that might explain your schedule. And if you both work, then weekday mornings might be problematic as you’re both getting ready to go to work. Here’s what I would suggest. One morning during the week, set your alarm 30 minutes or so earlier than normal and try to initiate having sex. If you’re afraid that might not work, then try making plans to have sex early some weekday morning so that you can both go to bed a little earlier, if that would help. If this works, then don’t complain about it, but go with it.

Hey, Dr. Feelgood:

I gave my boyfriend a blowjob and I swallowed, then we kissed. About 30 minutes later he ate me out. Could he have had any semen in his mouth that could have impregnated me?

There was a case a couple of years ago where a woman blew a guy, held his sperm in her mouth, spat it out and then used it to inseminate herself. Incredibly, the man was held responsible for paternity and paying child support. So, sperm can survive, at least for a while, in the mouth. However, in your case, I would say the odds are against conception. First of all, you swallowed, so most of the sperm went down to your stomach where it would be digested and destroyed. When you kissed your boyfriend, you might have transferred some semen back to his mouth, but it’s not like you were snowballing. Finally, there are digestive enzymes in the mouth that would be working on the sperm and breaking it down, so there’s a good chance that after 30 minutes, any surviving swimmers would be knocked out of commission.

Hey, Dr. Feelgood:

Has any other guy out there ever ejaculated while kissing? It has happen to me twice.

Yes.

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